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Tuesday, January 3, 2012

For aspie & NTs alike, where is the guidance from school?

Bridge to Fort Island where USS Missouri resides
This picture reminded of how far we came and how far we still have to go in our adventure called life.
I'm not being overly poetic. 
I always considered myself to be well prepared in managing W's school & keeping realistic goals. But it became very frustrating today.

We planned out his course schedule from 9th grade and on. Last year summer, after I've already put in for his fall schedule, I stopped by with W to see the career & guidance counselor. 

Although understanding and kind, she wasn't helpful at all. She printed out the copy of the schedule I completed and said we were on the right track. She gave me a 3 different pamphlets with dates for his AP exams and complained she was being kicked out of her office. 

Needless to say, I needed some guidance because I felt I was on my own. I am still on my own. W is already taking AP courses. I needed to know what AP courses he could take that was necessary and would be accepted at most colleges. He was going to be taking college courses during the fall in concurrently with high school, but she wasn't able to give me what courses he should take. I got that information from his current Senior friends that were on the same track.

I understand the school has a limited budget with many kids to service. But 3 pamphlets? It was a joke. I empathized with her situation, but that still doesn't help me or my son. It was the only time I regretted not forking out money for a private school.

I had to call college org to get information about SATs and AP exams and other advice. I also got great advice from my tweeps online and his current senior friends who were in the same track. 

So we are pretty sure the courses he is taking is correct and when he will be taking the SATs and applying for colleges. Now the only thing is to go through massive amounts of information to pick the college and it is daunting. 

Was it too much to expect guidance from school? I guess it was. I am on my own. I am glad I am able to get through most of the information, but my heart goes out to his friends with less educated and less involved parents. 

I am glad to have my friends on line giving me great suggestions including aspie friends. Wish me luck.


  1. Good Luck!!! My son is a Senior & wanted to re take the SAT test.Per School Guidance Counselor he didnt need to if he was going to a local college. Well guess what to get some of these free scholarships his score has to be a certain score. Now my son is mad at me. I told him he can retake the SAT and a learning centers. No worries.
    Anywhoo...Guidance Counseling isnt always on the top of their game.We have to look out for our kiddos always! Good LUCK again!-)

  2. I am glad you are there for your son. As to private schools doing a better job, I wish that was always true! I think it hurts worse when you pay for a good education and the school lets you down.

    I stopped by to ask you a favor. Would you be willing to do a guest post on my blog related to how you handled the bullying incident last year or to repost your February post on my blog? We are still having trouble getting some people to understand the impact of bullying and your post explained it so well.